The first half of my life I was a taker. I was in constant survival mode. Always looking out for me, reeling with lackful mindset. When I hit rock bottom, I knew I had to change everything. Over the past 12 years there is one thing that all the teachers I have studied and studied under kept repeating. Become a giver, be a blessing, give kindness away wherever you go without any expectation of receiving anything back. Ready to get your CRAZY Kindness On!?!?!
This way of thinking goes against most of societies way of being. We as a nation are built to be competitive. We are being bombarded on a daily basis to be consumers/takers. Most walk around focused on what they don’t have, what’s wrong with their life, how to go about fixing it or simply ignoring it and masking the pain of what they are feeling with all sorts of outer substances. What we focus on always expands. So if we are always in the focus on me mode, focus on my problems mode, focus on all that’s wrong mode…we usually tend to get a whole lot more of that.
When I began my climb out of the depths of hell, the first thing I was taught was when I was in the thick of the problem, was to go and help someone else, go be kind, give of myself, go be a blessing to someone. Another wards get out of my stinkin thinking.
Our mind will naturally resist this, it wants to keep you in the chaos, craziness, keep you spinning in circles. But if you have decided that you are willing to do whatever it takes to change, then you will tell your resistance to quit it’s bitchin.
EVERY time I chose to be a giver when I was in the thick of a problem that was eating me up, I got to bless someone, and EVERY time I was blessed in return. And 99% of the time the problem organically worked it’s way out. Solutions came with ease and grace, or the problem simply disappears.
It may be giving your ear, speaking uplifting encouraging words, giving a compliment, buying a stranger a cup of coffee, anonymously giving to someone in need financially, giving your old car when you get a new car to a family who doesn’t have a car and is in desperate need. Whether it’s big or small, giving is giving. And when you give, when you are kind, when you are a blessing to others, God will always bless you back in the most amazing spectacular ways.
I’m not going to lie, even after twelve years I still sometimes resist this, it takes practice and it takes remembering. Remembering how freakin good it feels to be a giver, how good it feels to make someone smile, how good it feels to contribute to someone in a positive uplifting way, how good it feels to catch someone off guard with a sweet blessing.
When you become a giver, even if it’s small it changes your perspective from lackful thinking to more then enough thinking, and when you are in a state of more then enough thinking and feeling, that is when the universe shows it’s magic.
I have put a challenge out for my kids for the next seven days. People are brought into our lives for reasons. I have challenged my boys to be a blessing to those who are brought into their path each day. To BE kindness. Kindness is contagious. When you commit to one act of kindness a day, it seems to grow and flourish. Each day they will dish out a random act of kindness, and each day they will write about their experience and how it felt.
So friends for the next seven days, commit to one random act of kindness a day, relish in how good it feels and see what happens with your life. My hope is that the kindness bug bites as many people in the ass as possible.
Much love and light.
Your Miracle mama Tomasin